Preparing for the return to school

Going back to school can be challenging for children with Selective Mutism - here are some practical tips to support your child’s return to school ❤️

1. Practice school routines at home

Practice school routines at home to build familiarity. Practice packing their bag, putting on their school uniform, and walking to school. Role-playing common school scenarios (in a fun way!) can also help 😊

2. Have a play date with a comfort friend before the first day of school

Having a play date (at your house) will help your child feel comfortable with their friend again before the return to school. It has been a long time away from school so it is a good idea to reintroduce school friends ahead of the first day back at school.

3. Discuss what will be familiar

If your child expresses worries about returning to school, discuss what will be familiar e.g. the children they will know in their class, the adults they have already met and the classroom they have already visited.

4. Become familiar with the school ahead of time

If possible, arrange for your child to visit the school before the first day (e.g. on the INSET day). This could be a quiet visit to the classroom when it’s empty just to look around or to play a game. Familiarity with the environment can help ease anxiety.

5. Establish a calm morning routine

Mornings can be stressful, so aim for a calm and predictable start to the day. Allow extra time to avoid rushing, and include relaxing activities, like listening to calming music or reading a favourite book before leaving for school.

6. Create a visual timetable

For some children a visual timetable can help them feel more comfortable if they understand what to expect each day. Include pictures representing different parts of the school day, such as arrival, class time, play time, and lunch. Reviewing this timetable together can help reduce anxiety by providing a clear structure.

7. Communicate with the school early on

Speak to your child’s teacher and any support staff as soon as possible. Share information about your child’s Selective Mutism, including any strategies that have worked in the past. Ideally have a meeting before school starts to discuss how the school can best support your child’s needs this year.

 8. Share my book "A letter to my teacher - why I can't speak at school" with the teacher.

 This book will help your child's teacher understand SM and your child ahead of time. Here is the link to the book. If your child would like to write their own letter to their teacher, there is a free letter template under "freebies".

9. Take care of yourself too

Supporting a child with selective mutism can be challenging, so it’s important to take care of your own well-being as well. Try to have time for your own self-care 🥰

We hope these tips help you and your child feel more prepared for the new school year. Remember, you are not alone in this journey! With understanding, patience, and the right strategies, your child will feel more comfortable at school.

Wishing you and your child a smooth and successful start to the school year!

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P.P.S Did you know that we offer Assessments & Diagnoses for Selective Mutism and can do this wherever you are in the world? Find out more here.